Dear Auntie Kate:I've been debating lately whether or not I should confront my cousin about my love and affection for him. But my 2 attempts so far have failed. I just can't bring myself to say anything like that to him. I was thinking maybe I could ask him how he felt about me and then go on from there. But now, I'm not sure. Maybe I should just move on. He doesn't seem to be the type to be involved with his cousins, but I don't think that's a big issue. I remember I once was whispering something in his ear, and as a joke, he said out loud "I can't do that, you're my cousin..." Please advise a.s.a.p. and thank you in advance. I think what you're doing is great by helping a minority like us, but one question: Please ease off with the sarcasm.
Dear Princess,
I hope dear, that you can buck up your courage and tell your cousin how you feel. That he has said he can't kiss you because you are his cousin may be his real feelings, or they may just be his off the cuff reaction to your joking proposition. Now lovely, if you place that same proposition in a slightly more serious or romantic context you may get a quite a different reaction. Humor and jokes can be a nice little test of the situation, but people do tend to react more honestly to sincere and honest interest.
I do caution you dear, that if he still says no, to take him at his word. Don't fixate or obsess, just move on. On the other hand, if he does show a spark of interest, I'm sure you don't need this old biddy's advice on what to do next.
Thank you for the applause on our efforts. You'll have to forgive me
for being a bit biting and sarcastic at times. When you are old, broken
in heart, body and sprit sometimes just a little bitterness can leak out.
It's no excuse dear, just the sad fact to consider. (sigh) Some of
our readers, I am told, occasionally enjoy a bit of darker humor. You might
note that even when I paddle or spank one of your naughtier little cousins
(figuratively, I mean) I usually do try to provide some comfort and encouragement
in the same little note. Balance dear, even with the momentum of years
of cynicism is my goal. Every day I strive to be better and better in every
way. Thank you for the encouragement, and the correction.
Your
Aunt Kate
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