Dear Auntie Kate:I am 15 and I love my 16 year old cousin. We are 4, 5, or 6 cousins. My family would disown me if they knew. I also have a fear of commitment because of the fact that my mom has been married 4 times. I know this is love but it could never work with my family. What should I do about my family?
If you are really 4th, 5th or 6th cousins, I doubt very much if your family would know, but if you really are so distantly related your Aunt Kate wouldn't worry about it one bit. Being on the verge of a romance is just the most delightful time! And that fear of commitment dear, well, don't you go breaking that nice young man's heart. He's going to be your cousin forever. Even if you don't make formal commitments, you can still build a real, loving and permanent relationship. Once you get over your fear, later this year or later in life, you can cross the other bridges. They're nice bridges too. Time is on your side, it's one of the great things about cousin relationships. Let your family know that you hang around with your cousin. They will correctly presume that you are close, and probably never ask a question about what you do together. Keep it wholesome and discrete. Best luck!
Your Aunt Kate
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