Dear Auntie Kate:My cousin is 26 and I am 21. We see each other only a few times a year, but I have always found him very attractive. On Christmas, we were drinking together and he told me that he had been attracted to me and kissed me several times. He gave me his own phone number so we could talk about it, but I gave it back because he was my cousin. I was happy about the kiss, but dismissed it due to the fact we were drinking. However, on New Year's we ended up spending the night together after drinking again (we didn't have sex). The next day, he drove me home and kissed me several times in the car. However, we never really talked about what had happened between us. I have a boyfriend of two years but I can't stop thinking about my cousin now. I don't know if he has feelings for me too or if I should just forget about what happened. I know he can get a lot of girls and maybe he just felt like I was there, so he should take advantage of it. We even talked about how he doesn't want a girlfriend right now because he's concentrating on his career. I really don't know what to do next.
Very confused
Very Confused,
I would write him a letter and ask him how he feels and also what he meant by those kisses. Tell him how you feel and your perception of what you had collected in him kissing the way he did.
You won't know anything if you don't ask my Auntie says and to know is better then being left out in the dark to wonder, wouldn't you say. Communication is the number one thing that two people should have in order to establish that bond and closeness we all seek.
Best of Luck
Cousin Sarah
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