I have a cousin who has been married for the past seven months. The girl who he married has a little girl who is
about 5yrs. old. When my cousin an his wife an her little girl come over, she comes looking for me right away an I
start playing with her. I get this feeling of treating her as if she was my own, because I would do almost anything for that little girl. I am wanting what to know what can I say or do to control my feeling for this little girl.
 

( Note- Cousin Sarah has asked me to answer this one while Aunt Kate is away -- KC )

Dear reader:

Your question is very sketchy. Since you are asking for help in controlling your feelings, I must assume the worst case scenario for the child’s sake.

You did not indicate exactly what types of feelings you are having. At any rate, having such strong feelings toward a child is abnormal and should be discussed with a qualified counselor without delay.

I urge you to express you concerns also with your cousin and his wife. They should be aware of your feelings. The best way to control your feeling for this little girl is to stay away from her, never ever be alone with any child.

I implore you to seek guidance from a professional counselor.  Problems of this nature goes beyond the scope of CousinCouples.com and our ability to counsel.
 

Yours,

KC