Dear Auntie Kate:I am getting married to my 1st cousin. We have been in love for many years. Everything has been great in our relationship. However, there is one area in which she seems to be "lacking": Intimacy. She's been doing a lot of shopping for our wedding and she started buying a lot of clothes to wear at night. She has also gone as far as to ask me to get a "night" suit to wear when we go to bed. Firstly, I sleep in the nude. I've slept in the nude for the past 5 years. Of course, if I have company or if I go to a friend's house, I wear clothes, but I feel more comfortable in the nude. I have told my fiance many times indirectly and directly that I thought "night clothes" were dumb and unnecessary. She insists that I pick up a pair of shorts and/or another article of clothing to wear at night. Am I being "inconsiderate" to ask my fiancee to sleep in the nude with me after we're married?
Am I inconsiderate to sleep in the nude even if my fiancee chooses to wear clothes to bed? Don't most couples (almost everyone) sleep in the nude? Or is that just a myth? I for one feel offended that my fiancee has asked me to buy clothes to sleep in. Please let me know your opinion on this matter.
Thank you.
Dear Man,
Such a question, in this day and age. My goodness. I thought such issues
were for us elders. It seems that you may be in love with a bit of
a prude.
On the other hand, I don't know your ages, I could be leaping to
conclusions. As a more mature woman, with no lack of interest in romance
I
point out, my toes get the most frightening chill and I go all to shivers
if
I don't keep my self swathed in a nice fleecy flannel nightgown.
But dear, as I draw a seductive image of myself, I simply must point
out
that the most interesting and surprising Christmas presents come in
lovely
wrappers.
Women, as you may have heard, are given to modesty. Are her charms to
be
paraded about the bedroom without the benefit of the slightest wrapper,
bow
or ribbon? Perhaps a little tease or appetizer monseur, before
zee main
course? Or I could be mistaken, perhaps she feels the prominent
display of
your manhood will simply be too much and she will be reduced to her
most
base instincts and pounce on you like a wild woman. No lady could allow
herself to fall into such circumstances. What if you were repulsed
by such
an agression? Or, perhaps she has caught a little glimpse of
your (emhem)
pride and is alarmed. You are not so endowed as to cause a fright,
now are
you?
Yes, my good fellow, my advice to you is to take the high road.
A nice set
of silk pajamas, a pair of fresh slippers and an elegant dressing jacket
should keep things under control until the lights are out, the covers
are up
and appropriate propriety can be observed.
Your
Aunt Kate
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