Dear Auntie Kate:Two weeks ago, my cousin came down her to visit me. We've always been close. In fact we've spent many summers together at my parents house. I kind of feel like we've grown up together. Now she's married and has a daughter. It didn't take but a couple of hours of being alone together to kiss and make love. I never really saw us in that way. Although i think we've always been attracted to each other. Now she wants to leave her husband and move in with me. The problem is are crazy family would never accept it. They're so Catholic, and they would look at us as committing the greatest sin in the world. We love each other so much and really want a life together. We also want to have children. Although we haven't had much time together, I feel closer to her than anyone else ever. Should we try to end this, so we don't risk damaging are family or go with our hearts?
Oh my goodness, you have a hard decision to make.
Kate is sure that your newly discovered role in your cousin's life very appealing. Bobby your Aunt Kate always takes the marriage vows seriously. Kiss her one more time, tell her you love her but won't have her alter her life, even after such wonderful visit.
Tell her you love her, respect her, and that you won't break up her family. Although it may seem hurtful, suggest that she work on her relationship with her husband and child.
Love your cousin Bobby, but don't bring a life of guilt to her. Don't hurt her loving husband and their sweet daughter. Just let it go, if you can.
Life is long, and cousins are cousins for ever. My advice to you
is that if her marriage is solid, she should honor that commitment.
Sadly,
Kate
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