Dear Auntie Kate:

My question for you is should I tell them? I'm scared and though hes a good boy, his dad distrusts him greatly. I'm very confused, I think it would make the situation worse by telling them, but at the same time, I want to share with my mom( were pretty close) my happiness, i really need your help, I have no one else to ask as my best friend is just as confused as I am.

Thank You!

Name: Jackie

Dear Jackie,

Oh dear, it does sound like you're in a pickle. You know your old auntie says that everyone knows that if you have affection, desire and proximity you're bound to get intimacy. Well dears, this one proves it.

Jackie, that your mom recognizes your mutual crush already has already let your secret out of the bag. If you want to continue to cuddle up to Joch, well, you probably have some hard discussions ahead with your mom.

Now sweetie, you didn't give me your age so I really can't help you very precisely. What I will say is, the younger you are the more your relationship with Josh will hurt that relationship. If you are old enough to separate your living arrangements and control of your day to day lifestyle from your mother, that's probably your best alternative. Once you have left the nest, your close relationship with her will be more adult to adult.  Until then, dear I haven't much I can suggest other than patience.

If you do sneak in the occasional little naughtiness, well, you wouldn't be the first. Sometimes stolen kisses are the sweetest. In telling us how special this relationship you are preaching to the converted. Don't worry dear, the feelings and relationship you have won't go away of you down play it until you are a little more adult.

You never know with this kind of thing - sometimes moms are afraid of the consequences more than the act. Perhaps she fears for how everyone else will react to your relationship.

Good luck dear Jackie, my heart goes out to you.

Your

Aunt Kate