Dear Auntie Kate:I AM CURRENTLY IN LOVE MY MY 2ND COUSIN I TURN 22 IN AUG AND SHE TURNS 21 IN AUG. WE HAVE BEEN SLEEPING TOGETHER FOR ABOUT EIGHT MONTHS NOW, THAT IS SLEEPING IN THE SAME BED. BOTH OF OUR PARENTS KNOW ABOUT OUR RELATIONSHIP AND THINK THAT THE BEST THING FOR US TO DO IS GET MARRIED. WE BOTH AGREE WITH THEM AND WANT TO GET MARRIED. THE PROBLEM IS THAT I AM IN THE MILITARY AND WE ARE AFRAID TO TELL ANY OF OUR FRIENDS. WE WANT TO WAIT UNTIL I GET TRANSFERRED AND GET A NEW START ON THIS AND NOT TELL EVERYONE THAT WE ARE COUSINS BUT TELL THEM WE ARE IN A RELATIONSHIP. THAT SOUNDS PRETTY GOOD BUT I DON'T KNOW WHEN I AM GOING TO GET TRANSFERRED AND IT REALLY SUCKS HIDING IT IN BEHIND CLOSED DOORS I HAVE ALREADY TOLD ONE OF MY FRIENDS AND HE WAS OK WITH IT BUT SHE GOT MAD. I GUESS SHE IS AFRAID OF WHAT PEOPLE WILL SAY, THEN AGAIN SO AM I. PLEASE HELP US BECAUSE WE ARE VERY MUCH IN LOVE AND COULD USE YOUR ADVICE.
Dear Confused,
MY GOODNESS! THEY TEACH YOU TO SHOUT in the Army, don't they.
Confused, I think you know what you both want to do, you know what your family is happy with it, if you marry your sweetie, it's no one's business but your own that she's your cousin. You just need your marching orders. Just do it. Make your arrangements and on your next leave, tie the knot!
Isn't the new man's army all about don't ask, don't tell?
Oh, I do so love a wedding!
Your
Aunt Kate
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